Grieving is an aspect of humans that makes them change how they think, act, behave, and live. It is a process that differs for different people and is very personal. There is no one way a person should and could move from their grieving phase to be okay and back to normal. Janet Holmes, an impactful author, shares amazing insights on the journey of how one can process grief in their own way by taking a little help from the leap of faith and belief. On her YouTube channel, “Tea with Janet,” she talked about this topic emotionally and personally, and this blog will further build on it.

Before we get into the pointers, it is important to learn a little bit about Janet so you can know how and why her insights are useful. Born and raised in Greater New Orleans, Louisiana, Janet has spent most of her life collecting stories and poems and learning from experience from the time she helped her mother work with the Foster Parents Association. Her interaction with the local community and children has given her a natural ability to mother and feel the grief of others like nothing else. Here are some of Janet’s special insights for your grieving journey to being okay.

1. Take time to heal: Fighting grief is a long trail of challenges. It does not just happen over the course of one night. Instead, it comes back on days when you least expect it. Janet says, “It takes time to heal; it takes time to even talk to people because not all the time you want to express yourself.” This is a wonderful thing to say because it is indeed true. Not everybody has the same way of expressing their feelings. Sometimes people prefer words, sometimes they prefer actions, and sometimes they prefer doing nothing. Take your time, and do not rush yourself into the journey.

1. Find a way to channel grief: Sometimes just talking does not make the pain go, and this is where channeling your feelings comes into use. Janet used writing as a way to let go of her grief,  but you do not have to do that necessarily. Do what makes you happy. Sing your grief, draw it, dance it out, but do what makes you feel lighter. Art, for the longest, has been the most popular language of emotions. Heal through your art, and find solace in what calls you.

1. Believe in yourself and God: This is one of Janet’s most important insights from her experiences. Believing in yourself that “I will be okay, this will pass, and I am strong enough.” along with trust in God that he will not give you more turmoil than you can bear, is exactly what you need to sail through the sea of your grief. Faith is a hope and a beacon that things will turn out how you want. Connecting with God can also help one to speak their heart out, because there is no judgment from His end.

Grief is a confusing emotion; it sticks with you and grows as you continue to live your life. You cannot end it, but you can work on how it affects you. As humans, certain things are not in our control, and loss is one of them. Be it the loss of someone, something close to you, an opportunity, or whatnot, all your feelings are valid, and you will heal from it soon. Janet’s insights are useful for understanding how to move forward in life. Her talks and writings, like her book “The Hidden Path of the Ancient Warriors,” reflect her ideas about the journey from grieving to being okay.